FAQ (Frequently Asked Questions )
Have you ever woken up to find a wet, sticky spot on your
underwear or pyjamas? At first you may have worried that you wet the bed. But if you’re going through or have already gone through puberty, you probably had a wet dream.
Doctors call wet dreams “nocturnal emissions.” Nocturnal means
“at night.” Emission is another way to say release.
Do you wonder what wet dreams are and why you have them?
Case Scenario.
I know of a young man who had such an experience.Any little sleep he gets into at any time of the day, he discovers that on waking up he has ejaculated. Sometimes ,when he is asleep and he discovers he is about ejaculating in or from his sleep…he struggles to hold himself not to ejaculate. Sometimes he does end up ejaculating to his frustration. It kept on happening to him everyday. The experience was embarrassing to him.Lets picture a scenario where he visits a friend and on waking up, he discovers that he just wet himself and the bed sheet of his friend .
He kept on being worried and had this fear that this experience may eventually lead to quick ejaculation in future.
His parents asked him to go for some tests (seminal fluid analysis ) to really find out if there was a problem or an infection with his semen and genitourinary tract since he wasn’t sexually active, however, he found that suggestion embarrassing.
He later discovered that his experience was part of his sexual development and so was a normal thing in his life when growing up. So,with this information his fears and anxiety were allayed.
Today, he no more has such daily experiences but once in a while.
1.What are Wet dreams?
A wet dream is when you ejaculate/release while you’re asleep. Ejaculate :means to release semen (the fluid that contains sperm) from your penis . Usually, a wet dream happens while you’re having a dream about sex . You may not even remember the dream.Sometimes,there may be no dreams before you ejaculate or sometimes you see yourself coming in contact with a sexual organ of the female in the dream.
You don’t have to masturbate to have a wet dream. You can
ejaculate without touching your penis .
2.What are the causes of wet dreams?
When you go through puberty, your body starts producing the
male hormone testosterone .
Once your body makes testosterone,it can release sperm. This means you’ll be able to fertilize an egg if you decide to have a baby in the future. It also means you can get a girl pregnant if you have sex .
During the REM (rapid eye movement) phase of sleep, it’s natural
for guys to experience an erection. If you happen to have an
arousing dream during this period of sleep, you will sometimes
ejaculate.
You may have trouble remembering the dream or feel confused
just after you have a wet dream. Some guys wake up because
they feel like they are going to wet the bed. This is completely
normal and nothing to be embarrassed about!
During puberty, you’ll start having erections at all different times
of the day — in school, while you watch TV, in the shower. You
can even have an erection while you sleep .
Semen can build up inside your body. One way that semen gets
released is with a wet dream.
Also ,when you are intensely aroused in the day, semen tends to build up and one way it gets released is through wet dream.
3.Is there something wrong with you causing you to having frequent wet dreams?
Wet dreams are a normal part of growing up. There’s nothing you can do to control or stop wet dreams.
Even if you have a lot of wet dreams it doesn’t mean there’s
anything wrong with you. Some guys have wet dreams a few
times a week. Others may only have a couple of wet dreams
during their entire life.
Once you start releasing sperm by masturbating or having sex
with a partner, you may have fewer wet dreams.
More than 80% of men experience at least one wet dream in their lifetime. Some men experience involuntary ejaculations in adolescence and then report that these wet dreams taper off into adulthood. Some men experience wet dreams regularly throughout their lives, regardless of frequent or infrequent sexual activity, while some men never experience them at all.
4.Can having wet dreams lead to quick ejaculation?
No! It can’t as there are no evidences to support it. Most men who experience wet dreams usually perform well in bed. So, don’t be afraid.
5.Does everyone experience wet dream?
You have to go through puberty and your testes need to be able
to produce sperm to have a wet dream. Wet dreams during
puberty are very common.
6.Is Anything wrong with you due to not having wet dreams?
Not every teenage boy has wet dreams. The fact you don’t have
wet dreams doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you.
7.Do Girls have wet dreams?
Although girls can’t ejaculate, they can have an orgasm during a
dream. Girls don’t have such dreams as often as boys, though.
A lady can reach orgasm just by sitting or lying still rubbing the labia majora against each other. She doesn’t need to be asleep.
8.What should I do if I have a wet dream??
When you wake up, clean yourself.
Wash your underwear.
Wash your penis and testicles with soap and water,
including the area underneath your foreskin
if you aren’t circumcised.
If you feel guilty or uncomfortable about having wet dreams — or
about a certain wet dream that you had — talk to someone. Sit
down with a doctor, parent, counselor, or another adult you trust.
Encourage yourself and remember it’s part of growing up.
9.Any Spiritual Implications?
I think that sometimes there may be a spiritual undertone to nocturnal emissions.
I once learnt of a married man who was having this experience everyday.He sees himself sleeping with another woman in the dream and when he awakens, he is all messed up.
As a result, he kept on living from hand to mouth until he went for prayers.
After days of intense prayers, the dream woman stopped coming, his experience ceased and his financial status improved drastically.
10.Any Solutions if it’s spiritual?
Oh yes! There is. Meet a Man of God for counseling and prayers if you see yourself having sexual intercourse in the dream.
It has to stop, and it will stop. Don’t be shy to open up as it’s for your good.
